Dad says his wife picked a baby name behind his back—and he hates it
There are some things that both parents just need to agree on — and baby names fall squarely into that category. One parent cannot unilaterally decide a baby name without the other parent’s input or agreement — but that’s exactly what happened in this post from Reddit’s “AITA” forum.
“It all started when we found out the gender of the baby,” a dad wrote in his post. “After we found out we were having a boy we sat down together and made a list. Almost all of the names she suggested were normal, until the one that caused me to write this post. She suggested we name our son Mune.”
AITA for refusing to let my wife name our kid something stupid?
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He continued, “She told me the name was from this movie she watched when she was younger and that it always stuck with her. I told her the name was a little out there and he would get made fun of for it. She claimed he wouldn’t and we started going back and forth trying to decide whether to add the name to the list or not. Eventually she agreed to keep the name off the list, we picked some that we liked, and I thought that was that.”
Except that wasn’t the end of it.
The dad continued, “Later on in her pregnancy her mom decided to throw a baby shower as it was her first grandchild, and my wife’s pregnancy was almost over and we hadn’t celebrated once. It was fine for the most part until we started to open the gifts. Most of them were normal baby things like diapers and bottles, until we got to her moms gift. My wife opened the gift bag and pulled out a blue handmade blanket. It seemed normal enough at first until my wife unfolded it and low and behold there was the name Mune written on the blanket. When I saw it i was pissed but didn’t want to cause a scene so i stayed quiet. After that reveal I had family members come up to me and ask me about the name and why I hadn’t told them. I didn’t know what to tell them as I didn’t have a clue about this either and just had to embarrassingly tell my family that, which pissed me off even more.”
At the end of his post, he wrote, “Once the event ended and me and my wife went home I started to question her about the name. She got defensive and told me that it was a good name and that I was overreacting about it. I brought up the earlier points and told her it was a stupid name for a kid and if she wanted to name something Mune so bad she could use the name for a dog. She got upset and called her mom to come get her. After she left she called me and told me she wouldn’t be coming back for awhile.”
So he’s asking the internet if he’s in the wrong but we all agree that he’s obviously not, right? He and his wife agreed on a list of names that they both liked, and then she went behind his back and told people the baby name was the one he hated. That’s an a**hole move, right there.
The top comment on the post reads, “Naming a baby is a 2 yes or 1 no situation. You do not name a child something your partner does not agree with. You find a compromise. This is the start of many necessary compromises in life and it is a total AH move to unilaterally decide on a child’s name despite your partner’s misgivings.”
Yep, that’s pretty much it.
Another popular comment adds, “I’m also about to give birth and we haven’t picked a final name yet. If my husband went behind my back and told his family a name and didn’t bother to mention it to me…I’d be livid! Not to mention she told them early enough that they either had time to personalize or hand make a personalized gift!”
That commenter continued, “Names should be 2 yeses. I’m not gonna comment on the name…but your wife is TA for making an important decision behind your back, keeping you out of the loop, and telling people. That’s not ok. Hopefully things can settle down and you guys can talk it out soon. Hope all goes well!”
We have to agree. The dad is not in the wrong, and his wife owes him a big apology — and a baby name off the list they both agreed on.
